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Pain is Pain


Winds of Change

It seems that every day we hear stories of personal suffering and loss that far exceed our own. When we compare our situations to those of people living in war-torn countries or recent events on the East Coast, it is tempting to minimize our own experiences of suffering. We may feel that we don’t have a right to be upset about the breakup of a relationship, for example, because at least we have food to eat and a roof over our heads.

While awareness of the pain of others can be a valuable way to keep our own struggles in perspective, it is not a legitimate reason to disregard our own pain. Disparaging your feelings as being less important than other people’s emotions leads to denial and repression. which over time  leads to numbness. It is as if our internal systems become clogged with our unexpressed emotions. This in no way helps other people who are suffering in the world. In fact, it may do just the opposite because when we devalue our own sorrow, we become impervious to the sorrow in others.

Fully experiencing our own hurt is the gateway to compassion toward other human beings. Feelings of loss, abandonment, loneliness, and fear are universal, and, in that sense, all feelings are created equal. Regardless of what leads us to feel the way we do, our comprehension of what it means to be human is deepened by our own experiences. Our personal lives provide us with the material we need to become fully conscious. If we reject our emotions because we think our experiences are not dramatic or important enough, we are missing out on our own humanity.

5 responses

  1. Je suis tout-à-fait d’accord avec toi !

    April 26, 2013 at 1:00 pm

  2. I really like this image and I almost can’t put into words why but I think it is the way that the limbs are leading me to the setting sun. I also find the message in the post to be quite powerful.

    April 26, 2013 at 11:46 pm

  3. Love the leading lines in this shot, and the blurred branches. You can almost feel the wind blowing across your back as you view this.

    April 27, 2013 at 11:07 am

  4. Scott Howell

    Absolutely, perfectly true and insightful.

    October 25, 2014 at 12:49 pm

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